Ownership

We renegotiated our contract.

Which is BDSM-speak for we had a sit down and had a talk about what we both wanted going forward.

She gave me more power over her, in specific ways. I like having this control.

I'm starting to feel like I have a grasp on my girl's feelings and desires. Not a strong or complete one, but I'm definitely making progress. I'm able to anticipate some of her needs, and do what I can to either take care of her myself, or get her to do what she needs to take care of herself. 

Familiarity breeds comfort in this case, so the more time we spend with each other the more comfortable I become in this role. I'm starting to feel entitled to her and her body, instead of worrying about if it's ok. We have it in writing what is and isn't ok, which helps a lot.

It's also giving me more confidence outside of the relationship. My girl is letting me see it's ok for me to be sexual and want these things.